Why don’t Men talk about Mental Health?

Men have a tendency to avoid talking about mental health, which can lead to an increase in men experiencing poor mental health and higher suicide rates for men. Below are some common reasons why men seem to find it difficult, and some hints and tips to help either yourself, or someone you know who might be having a tough time.

Know the signs for Mental health

“I’m OK, Honestly”: Most men feel that if they admit to having mental health concerns, they are admitting they could have a problem that feels uncomfortable. It’s a little like burying your head in the sand….. ‘If I pretend it’s not there, it will go away’. However, addressing mental health is a similar fix to going to the gym, it’s really just maintenance of your mental health. Most men find it easy to prioritise their physical health – but mental health shouldn’t be any less important.

“I’m absolutely Fine”: Mental health exists for everyone, and it comes and goes in waves. The problem with waiting until issues become severe is actually less practical than seeking advice early. Keeping your mental health ‘healthy’ is essential, and being proactive rather than reactive is a healthy choice.

“I can’t fix how I feel”: Your mental health isn’t about “fixing” yourself like a faulty appliance. Start by identifying root causes and see ‘self improvement’ or ‘self development’ as a normal part of life. Practising mindfulness can provide some instant relief from anxiety, stress, and burnout, so try this quick and easy guided meditation here.

“I’m not that bad – I can sort this out myself.” It’s important to ask for help or share how you are feeling with others. They say a problem shared is a problem halved! Talk to a friend. Sometimes just being able to share what’s on your mind can help you feel better or find solutions. If you are struggling, speaking to a friend or some talking therapy might help. Speak to your GP or take a look online at the support available. And take a look here for more support.

“Everyone sees me as the strong one who’s got their life together. I can’t let them see the real me.” The pressure to appear strong can lead men to ignore their mental health. Having a stiff upper lip, or ‘pulling yourself together’ is a view that needs to change. In fact, accepting that you need help or support and trying to improve your wellbeing is where the real strength lies.

Remember, talking about mental health doesn’t make you weak—it’s a sign of courage and self-awareness.